The All
Around Honies
It’s Wednesday night, and as usual me and my "All Around Honeys" are getting in gear for our weekly girls night out.
Being a female and attending the Go-Go on a regular basis brings along a lot of negative connotations, and unwanted attention. Just because my nickname is "Lil Kim" doesn’t mean that I want to go home with you. Just because I have on a short skirt doesn’t mean I want you to touch me. If I was anywhere outside of the Go-Go you would not approach me in an offensive manner, however, something about being in the Go-Go makes some young men feel it’s open season, and every young lady in there is to be preyed upon. What is logic to this? I can’t speak for every female in attendance, but the majority of ladies I have spoken with agree. We are tired of being disrespected. The All Around Honeys have been in the Go-Go family for 10 years. We are not new to the "Politics of Go-Go". Basically, what we get out of Go-Go, is what everyone else gets out of it. We want to straight party, we want to dance, we want to mingle with the regulars. But, a lot of males take for granted these ideas. They feel that we are there for them. SORRY- not the case. Over the past couple of months I have gotten into at least 5 heated arguments at the Go-Go. All of them were with males. Most of them almost proceeded into fist fights, because I refuse to looked upon in a negative light. If you truly are interested in me, approach me correctly. Don’t start you sentence with "A….", or "A…Girl". The truth is I am probably old enough to be your mother. And by all means DO NOT TOUCH ME. What makes these young men think that any female wants your hands on them? We don’t know you from no where!! And then, why do you get upset, when Ladies tell you straight up, "Please don’t touch me". You might be the man of my dreams, but once you cross that line, I have no convo for ya ! The one man that approached me correctly In the last 6 years, did it very simply. He tapped me on the shoulder, and merely said, "excuse me, could I possibly talk to you for a second?". He and I were together for 5 years. In closing, please remember that every female you come in contact with at a club is not a "freak". Think of us as your friends and treat us as such. Keep in mind that we are not always there to find a man, and realize that that’s okay. Try and keep your hands to yourself, and if you see that special someone, treat her like a lady and the touching will come later. If you ask a girl for her name and/or number and she does not want to comply, don’t get upset, don’t call her out of her name, and don’t disrespect her. Go on to the next young lady. "She ain’t mad at ya". There are too many stereo-typical ideas that people outside of the Go-Go already have associated with "Go-Go as a way of Life". Don’t add to the confusion. Keep it real. And allow young ladies and young men to come together, and party together, and be real together. Peace and Blessings!
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Being single mothers and balancing a career is tough, so we look forward
to the one night when we can all go out and unwind. To Some people
"unwinding" is sitting at home in a hot tub with a book. Don’t get me wrong,
there are times we do that to, however, being born and raised on Go-Go
music, there is no other place we’d rather be than surrounded by
"Northeast Sounds" at The Met.